“Well, I really try to do my best, and just when I’m about to complete some task, this person, always the same one, comes over, looks at what I’ve done, then offers some crappy critical comments, and tells me I could do better. She’s not even my boss!”
“Hmmm, that can’t feel good. Would you be willing to describe a little more in detail what you and she are doing together in this work group, what you’re trying to accomplish?”
Sal steers the conversation in what she hopes to be some fruitful directions, as she sees that this person is sincere but may have some difficulty communicating her own needs and setting boundaries with her co-workers. The company culture and expressed values around cooperation and collaboration are something she needs to uphold, and she wants to do it in a way that can be heard by the employee, so she asks the employee if she’d be willing to look at a couple cards in the Divine Dog Wisdom deck for fun and insight. A little surprised, the employee says yes, so Sal thumbs through the deck and picks two cards, Expression and Collaboration, cards that offer insight into some of the topics they’d begun discussing. And instead of pulling out a company manual, she reads from the Divine Dog Wisdom Deck guidebook, what is written about each card and its theme. While she’s reading, she notices the employee nodding her head several times.
“That was really helpful! I get how I have not been sticking up for myself, and it’s been taking its toll,” said Rebecca. “And I get how this person and I could really be teaming up, because we are working on the same project with the same deadline for an outcome we both want. Before I go today can I look at more of those cards?”
“Sure, no problem, Rebecca. And by the way, I left the whole deck in the coffee room. I guess you never saw them there. I wonder if someone took them home?”
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